It can be hard to find resources for healing after the loss of a baby. I couldn’t stomach any of those books on grief and people looking at me with pity in their eyes just made me sick. So I took the woo-woo route to healing. I knew that my baby girl was OK and I wanted her to know that I was too. For more on my journey, you can take a look at my bio.
As a Christian, I knew that my baby was not gone. But knowing she was close by and that I could connect with her was so helpful for me. The following are some of the resources that helped me do that. The other thing that helped me was to consciously raise my vibration and I’ll write about that next time.
Acupuncture and Chiropractic: My husband and I have a couple of friends who were gracious and loving enough to come by our house, listen to us tell our stories about our baby girl, and give us chiropractic adjustments and acupuncture treatments. It was a blessing to be cared for in that way.
Intuitive Healing: After being cared for by our friends, one of the first things I did was see an intuitive healer. I wasn’t sure if I “believed” in what she did, but I figured it was worth a try to ease my pain. She did some energy work. I’m not sure if I felt much, but again, it was nice to be attended to. She also said that my little girl came in to say hi. I thought that was nice. Then she started talking about my grandmother - which I did not expect. I was told that my grandmother’s spirit was with me, helping me to get out of bed in the morning and that she knew how I felt because she’d also experienced the loss of a baby. I’m not sure if I knew that - and I definitely didn’t remember it at the time. It was only after, when I talked to my mom, that all the pieces of what I was told fell into place. It was nice to be able to talk to my grandmother and know she was listening and there to support me.
Erin Pavlina’s Articles: The experience with the intuitive healer opened me up to the spirit world and I found Erin Pavlina. I was fascinated with Erin’s writing. Her knowledge of, and ability to connect with, the other side was reassuring and her writings were very healing for me. I eventually got a reading from her which was also amazing. She gave me a picture of what my life could be that I treasure and am working to create.
Long Island Medium: I needed to fill the time that would have been my maternity leave so, along with spending a lot of time on Erin’s site, I binge-watched Long Island Medium. It’s silly, I know. Maybe it’s fake, I don’t know. But I know that what I saw was a woman giving other people messages from the spirits of their relatives and those messages brought people comfort and peace. Watching other people healing was healing for me - so I watched!
New Earth Events: I started going to the New Earth and Holistic Living Expos when they came to town. They were entertaining and I could get short and inexpensive readings or just listen to the free lectures. Once, on our first time there, we were approached by a medium who asked us if we’d lost a child. She said that our girl was with us and then burst into tears because our baby’s love for us was so overwhelmingly strong. At that point, my husband and I just smiled. Yep! That’s our girl!
Sure, the term “woo-woo” can be derogatory. If that’s how you feel about the above, that’s totally fine! But it can also refer to the emotional, spiritual, and mystical side of life. Isn’t that what you’re dealing with when dealing with death? It took me a long time to embrace my woo-woo side, but that was one of the most healing things of all, and one of the lessons that I’m sure my baby girl came here to teach me!
What helped you heal after the loss of your baby? Help others heal by sharing in the comments below.
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