I’m in the process of reconnecting with a friend from high school, but we’re on opposite sides of LA and we seem to have opposite schedules, so it’s starting slowly.
Other than that, I don’t have any local friends. We’ve moved several times in the past few years and I don’t get out that much. Plus, I’m not so good at small talk – I’m much better with deep meaningful conversations and that doesn’t really make it easy to meet people.
When my baby was younger, I just wanted some mommy friends. I wanted some women I could hang out with and bring my baby along. I wasn’t ready to get a sitter and go out on the town, but I did need to be in community. And I did find some moms to fill that roll. We went over to each others houses a few times, met at the playground and for walks, and had our cleaning play dates.
But that was there, and now I’m here.
I realized last night that I no longer want mommy friends. I want friends. I want other women that I can be a woman with. Not a mommy. I’m a mommy all day and all night, every day and every night. I like it that way.
But I am realizing that I need to be more than a mommy. I need to be me. I need an hour or two every once in awhile when I can talk about business, goals, and spirituality rather than vaccines, the park, and how the nap schedule is shifting.
So I’m putting it out there: I’m ready to embrace that part of myself that gets ignored when my focus is completely on my baby - that part of myself that, by nourishing, will make me a better person and a better mother. If you’d like to share a pot of tea and join in that process, I’d love for you to join me!
Are you in need of a non-mommy friend? What would you do and talk about with her? Tell me below!