During that isolated pregnancy, my husband and I decided that we weren’t going to mention the baby on social media at all. No pictures, no posts, no groups, no private messages. No mention AT ALL. That was the rule we set for ourselves. That was the rule we shared with the people who got a birth announcement in the mail.
I grew up not telling strangers my name and not giving out personal information. It was a safety thing. So not sharing my baby’s personal information made sense to me.
The rule had to be changed when I started a blog. How was I going to maintain the integrity of the agreement I made with my husband and also write a blog about my experiences as a mother? I decided to mention that I had a baby, but that was it. I’d do my best not to disclose pronouns or anything age relevant. In fact, I do my best to keep myself as the subject and keep the rest of my family’s privacy intact.
In an age where people feel comfortable putting EVERYTHING online, it’s been very difficult. People love us and want to share my baby with the world. I don’t blame them! I would too! Except for the rule…
I’m sure people think I’m crazy. And maybe I am. Is this about some fear or paranoia? Nope! This is just the way I’ve chosen to raise my kid. Sure, it’s kinda counter-culture, but I think my family has given up on me being “normal” by now.
When it’s time for my baby to have a “coming into society party” then I’m sure my baby’s name will be well known. But now is not the time.
So, if you know us, or if you meet me and my baby, feel free to post. I’d love to hear from you! But don’t mention my baby.
Better yet, let’s skip the media and just be social. Tea and pastries at my place?
What counter-culture decisions have you made for you family? Share below!
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