Losing Kalis was a very public experience. She was born at 38 weeks and died shortly after. Along with family and friends, we had the birth and chiropractic communities of San Diego as well as the business community of Rancho Bernardo who all wanted to show us love and support during that time. One of the things that irritated me the most was when a man would come up to me and, as a way to relate, say “I know it’s not as bad as what you’re going through” and then proceed to tell me about his wife’s miscarriage as if that type of loss was nothing compared to losing Kalis. This happened more times than I can remember.